This week, the educational
world was rocked by a serious incident of multiple stabbings in a well-respected
suburban Pittsburgh high school. I, like many others, was glued to the
television set as the terrible tragedy unfolded. The viewing public was left with one
question: Why?
Although I do not know that
answer, I do know that while listening to KDKA radio a few days after the
stabbings, the announcer said that there have been over 500 acts of violence in
the nation’s schools since Columbine occurred on April 20, 1999. I was a classroom teacher that day, and I remember
the terror that my students felt as the news was reported. I remember how many students asked me a
seemingly simple question: “Am I safe at
school?” Although I said “Yes” in 1999,
I am not sure that is the correct answer today.
I am 61 years old, and my teaching
career began in 1974. Nothing like
shootings or stabbings occurred. I
believe Columbine was the game changer.
Principals and administrators provide anti-bullying programs. In some cases, the ratio of counselors to
students has improved. And yet, our
students are both angry and unhappy. I
am going to venture a reason for this anger and unhappiness.
The world is so fast paced and
so expensive, that to support a family, both parents are working full time. Little time is left for family dinners and
conversations. The personal connection
is broken in the family, and I think children want more. They will say they want more “stuff”- an
Iphone, a car, cool clothes, a coach bag, etc.
I am going to venture a guess and give an opinion; one that 37 years in
the classroom formed for me. I think students want more of a family life, and more
caring and involved parents. Many of the students I knew through the years had
what I call a “nodding” relationship with their parents. They nodded at each other when they saw one
another, and sometimes had a stilted conversation of “How’s school?” “Fine.”
But there was no real connection or caring. Kids would tell me that they wished their parents
would ask them real questions and actually LISTEN to what they had to say.
I will take this one step
further, and say that the nation’s children are mirror images of their
parents. If the parents are angry and
unhappy, the children are too. Parents
are their child’s first teacher, and kids will copy what they see. I know that the world is a difficult place to
be, but it is also a beautiful place to be.
I believe it is especially beautiful if you are lucky enough to have children. Think of it; you are giving the world your own personal legacy.
I say that your children are
well worth the extra effort to prepare time for a family dinner and
conversation a few times each week, and to show them a positive attitude. Home,
like school, should be a place where our children feel safe and loved and
valued. Ask questions and listen when your children talk. They love you and desire your attention and love in return. Just as teachers are role models
every minute of their lives, so are parents.
Try to be what you want your children to be. And give them an extra hug after you finish
reading this. They are a part of you and
they deserve the best you have to offer.
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